Yeah, gratitude. It may sound like a cliché and you have the right
to think so. We are always to be told that we need to be grateful. The more we
appreciate small things, the more abundance we are promised to feel. They say
that we should never take things for granted. We hear this advice from
basically everyone. We see it in the wise people's writings and all holy
books. It is something that is emphasised so often that it becomes difficult
not to get sick of it or even annoyed by it. What is more important than thinking
wisely? It is to be truly realistic first. Realistic in a way that would let
you accept the fact that humans take things for granted all the
time. It is just depressing to even think about how people have a lot of good
things in their lives but they mostly see what they do not have. Adam, peace be
upon him, did that before, so why would we be any different, right?

The truth is that we humans are just as different as we are similar.
Many of the thinking patterns inside our
heads are also common among other humans. That is why the concept of gratitude
is present in all cultures, scripts, and holy books. It is important to note
that this is not about religion. I am just talking about something in our
nature. However, when we hit our lowest points, it becomes ridiculously
difficult to feel grateful for the things we have. Honestly, this is strange,
but this is how it is. It is always easier for the people on the outside. Those
who see the struggle but do not feel it, cannot fathom the chain of negative
emotions that is tying that person who is sad. And that is not because those
people do not care enough (although most of the time they do not care), but
rather because they are not going through it themselves.

When we are faced with such a situation where we have a person going
through rough time, is it really the best time to remind them how beautiful
there life is? Or is it really the time to remind them of all the reasons why
they should be alright?

Doing so will in fact undermine that person's struggle and make
her/him feel bad about themselves because they are feeling bad and you can
think of how this would turn out in the end; a messed up situation where the
person who genuinely wanted to offer help, made things worse. Or, there might
be another scenario! The person who is having troubles, would flip out and turn
into the defensive mode because he/she felt that their struggles are being
minimised.

Gratitude is a magical sensation. At its peak, life becomes so
beautiful that you truly and deeply realise that you do not need a single thing
to be happy. But as most of our emotions, this does not last. But it is
important to not let people who misuse the concept of gratitude convince you
that gratitude is something unreachable.